A tweet from Phoena, linking to a tweet from ChildfreeOnline, led me to this article… an article that just does not compute with my brain.

The article itself is bad enough, taking what I’m assuming is a tongue-in-cheek approach to coming up with “excuses not to have sex.”  I say “tongue-in-cheek” because I’m assuming that most men aren’t stupid enough to believe that their spouses have actually contracted a case of Acute Disseminated Encephalomyelitis Elephantiasis, especially since Excuse #10 assumes that the guy is not a dummy.

Sigh.  Just sigh.

This article bothers me on so many levels, I’m just no sure where to start.

First, there’s this whole “mothers don’t want to have sex” assumption.  I know plenty of women who have children and still like to have sex on a regular basis.  And by “regular basis,” I’m talking more than once a month.  Perhaps my friends are the exceptions to the rule?

Second, there’s the encouragement of dishonesty in a relationship.  If one spouse isn’t in the mood to have sex, why does s/he need to come up with an excuse?  Why isn’t honesty good enough?  Why would anyone need an “excuse” other than the truth?

Third, I don’t understand why a woman wouldn’t want to have sex with her spouse on a regular basis.  Perhaps the couple isn’t doing it right if the female half of the couple views it as a chore, rather than something enjoyable that should be looked forward to and desired.

Then there’s the phrases like “wifely duty” or assuming that all women would choose cleaning house over sex (I’ve never ever chosen household chores over sex and seriously question the sanity of anyone who would).  How very enlightened of the author.

Finally, we get to the comments, most of which, fortunately, call out the author of the article as being full of shit.  But there are are few doozies:

There’s “ashley”

But when we do do it, thank goodness it doesn’t last long.

She says that like it’s supposed to be a good thing.  Huh?

And “Jedediah” adds his point of view with:

I have four kids and I can tell you, I love my kids. But after getting married and popping out that first kid?… I am here to tell you. Do not get married. the average American woman views you as a bank and sperm donor. Nothing more. …

Then there’s “Jessica”:

…However I’d consider changing #10 to sex in exchange for 10 diaper changes… Now you might be onto something!

Because apparently Jessica requires payment of some sort to have sex.

And let’s not forget “a male perspective,” who says:

Too many women view men as nothing more than a life support system for a bank account. Sex after marriage is simply for making babies…So many women are just scam-artists.

A sexual relationship is a natural and healthy part of a marriage/intimate partnership.  Sex is good for you.  Why wouldn’t you want to include that in your relationship on a regular basis?  Why would you want your partner to see you only as the mother of his children, as opposed to his partner?

Argh.  So many times, women really piss me off and are their own worst enemy.

February 28th, 2009 | Category: Childfree, Feminism, Health, Sex: It's Not Just for Procreation! | Subscribe to comments | Leave a comment | Trackback URL